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Transitioning roles from parent to adult child – adapting to a reversed way of life

Aging is a part of life and something that most individuals will experience. Reversing the role between parent and child is one of the most difficult challenges within the aging process. As a child, you want to respect the wishes and independence of your weakening parent and help them to avoid being a victim of their failing competence but doing so can be a tough transition. As challenging as it can be, parents need to learn how to adapt to this intricate and frightening shift of life.

Parenting your parent will take patience, this holds especially true if mom and/or dad becomes difficult. It is important to keep in mind that your elders are now adapting to not only a life of dependency but to a reversed role in life where their own child is now in charge of the decision-making. Adult children must sympathetically understand how this changing role can lead to anger, frustration, fear, stubbornness, and resistance in their aging parent. Recognizing these feelings and accepting them will help to manage their care somewhat easier.

For the adult child, adjusting to the role of parenting mom and dad can be uncomfortable and frustrating. These new, and at times unexpected, responsibilities not only add a great deal of stress but can be a large burden. Getting support from others is imperative but one may not always know who to turn to. This would be an ideal time to reach out to Caring Hearts for some assistance each week if possible. The break allows you the chance to recharge and to maintain the role of daughter or son. . If you don’t have the ability to bring Caring Hearts in consider reaching out to:

  • Family Members
  • Friends
  • Professional Counselors
  • Caregiver Support Groups
  • Clergy

To better assist you and your loved ones, the Society of Certified Senior Advisors has put together a few excerpts from individuals who have experienced this changing role in life.

  • “Countless hours of working with seniors, and my experiences with my own aging parents, have taught me that as parents age, the dynamics of the parent-child relationship change dramatically. It can result in compromised care and can threaten the very core of the family unit.”
  • “As long as the boundaries and responsibilities remain unchallenged, the dynamics of the parent-child/child-parent relationship continue to work smoothly; but when aging parents begin to need assistance, an interesting transition occurs: the adult children assume the caregiving role of parents.”
  • “A person’s life cycle is one great circle. We had caregivers in the beginning and many of us will need caregivers in the end. If we are lucky, the people whom we love most will be present to assist us in the completion of our life’s journey. Acceptance of this cycle can improve the quality of all our lives. It also completes the circle of love.”

Most importantly, a caregiver should realize they are not alone in their quest to serve their parents, or in the feelings of guilt which often come with considering outside help.


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